The sleep struggle is SO real!!!
I woke up at my normal 7:30, and jumped out of bed to see why Ava wasn’t awake yet…and low and behold there was NO baby in the awesome canopy bed that Jeff and I had so kindly bestowed upon her. Truth be told, we haven’t slept much since the dreaded day (a week before Christmas!), and I’m quickly regretting that I made her head safety a priority and scratched the crib…I miss the (let’s be honest) cage she snoozed so well in. BUT, I can’t have her cracking open her little skull trying to consistently escape her crib. I work in Behavior, but I’m at a loss! My dogs weren’t this complicated…back to the matter at hand, I panicked! Where was she?!? After looking in multiple rooms, I hustled to my bedroom to tell Jeff our daughter was Houdini…and there she was! I narrowly missed stepping on her when I got out of bed, she was sleeping with the dog.
Everyone told me to silently keep taking her back to her bed, I mean after all that’s generally how we integrate our puppies to sleeping in their beds instead of crates, right?!? How different can it be??? Well, Ava needed to prove just how lucky I had been previously…with my kids, AND my dogs. Each child is different, and even though I had success with my first child easily integrating into a bed at a young age, doesn’t mean her majesty will be. Taking her back quickly became a game full of baby giggles, doors soon became a fun obstacle we MUST have been “challenging” her with, as were baby gates! But Mama needs her sleep child, so 5′ baby gate is on the list!
So where does this register in my Behavior brain? It’s me! I failed to remember she is NOT the same as Aiden! She has her own mind, and clearly it is full of love for Karma, her dog bed, and watching Mama cry all night (joking…kind of). I get it, we are all suffering right now, but this will pass, I just need to outsmart her and (for lack of better words) “crate” train her in her bedroom! Hence the giant baby gate. We will babyproof the hell out of her room, remove all toys, and just let her brain learn this is a sleeping place, not a playroom, and between these hours you need to chill in here.
I keep going back to a part of me that can’t grasp why this was this so unbelievably hard for me? I mean essentially my puppies are similar in thought and understanding to a child about this age. But I’m too close to the problem, and not used to a defiance of this level, so I was doing what I warn my clients about. I was over rationalizing! I made excuses, far be it for me to forget that I HAVE had to send Aiden back to bed in the past, and I HAVE had to re-crate train dogs! Well, lesson learned!
In a nutshell, when your thinking of transitioning your babe to a bed, or a puppy out of its crate, let this be a lesson to you! They are all so different, so don’t panic if they don’t get it the first time, just backtrack and try again…and invest in giant baby gates, or bigger dog crates! In the mean time, I’ll be putting a bed for Karma in Ava’s room, clearly she would rather sleep with Karma than in her own bed…